the pro-life movement can be summed up by the fact that one of my friends who’s pregnant was taking the bus home from downtown when all the people from the March for Life were also leaving and she asked a young girl sitting in the priority seating if she could sit down because she’s pregnant and the girl replied, “well I’m really tired, i was at the march all day.”
Are you fucking joking
So my parents bought me this thing called the Selfie Stick
And pretty much you attach your phone to the stick and you can take pictures using the little clicker thing. So instead of taking photos like this:
I can take photos like this:
My friend just told me she’s been diagnosed with PTSD and Depression and all I could say was, ‘Ugh. I don’t know what to say.” I still don’t know what to say. Do I say I’m sorry? Mental illness is indeed an illness but the politics behind it are so complicated.
Plus I realise we’ve never been taught how to accept mental illness in our society. I’m supposed to go spend a few days with her next week. When she told me, my first instinct was to cancel, because what if I go and say the wrong things? How do I act? Am I supposed to treat her differently? What if something happens? How do I let her know she’ll be okay?
Why weren’t we taught this in school???
Talk to your friend.
She’s had PTSD and depression probably the entire time you’ve known her- so you don’t need to suddenly do anything. My guides are mostly based off rape- and that isn’t the only reason why someone might have PTSD, but the might give you a general idea.
Avoiding Awkward: How to talk about rape when we talk to survivors. (which is more trauma based in general.)
For the most part- if she hasn’t told you to treat her differently, she isn’t expecting you to. It might be nice of you to ask if there is anything you could be considerate of…
but for the most part- folks with PTSD and depression are still just… people. If she talks about trauma- believe her. If she’s talking about trauma and you feel uncomfortable/it’s too much for you to handle- set boundaries and try to figure out something that works for both of you. I find with a lot of folks- what makes them uncomfortable is they don’t know what the person telling them wants them to do. You’re allowed to ask. You’re allowed to say ‘hey, I’m listening- but I need to know what you’re looking for from me. do you want advice? for me just to listen? validation?’ She may have triggers, if so, respect them.
but mostly… just talk to her. ‘Hey the other day you told me that you have PTSD and depression’ or if you aren’t willing to say that ‘hey, a bit ago you told me some… serious stuff.’ and then go ‘I was wondering if there’s anything you’d like me to do because of that’